Healing Mentally, Emotionally, Physically and Spiritual-A Whole Woman.

*Clears throat*, I am back, and unlike the title suggests, I am unfortunately not back from being healed...

Butttttt I am in the process of becoming so. Now you're probably asking, does one need trauma or tragedy to require healing? And if so, what traumatic event have I been through?

In all honesty… too much to count or even think about. But to answer the first question, there are many aspects or quadrants of one's life that need work, and I'm going to illustrate some of the "allys" they may fall into.

You have the billionaire who has no heart, emotionally weak.

The poor man who has no ambition may be mentally or physically weak.

the couple who have no interest in rekindling their affections in marriage, emotionally or physically weak

The young girl who's educated but easily flustered -emotionally or socially or mentally weak

They all are a part of some "ally," and oftentimes it's not as simple as it sounds; there may be a serious reason as to why that girl cannot speak in front of a crowd or why that man cannot say he loves someone. Somewhere along their lives, something happened.

Now I am not here to diagnose or give hints, suggestions, or tips on how to deep dive into anyone's life when they start doing things that raise eyebrows. Personally, I am an empath, even if I want to avoid the situation. I just know that there might be a reason why John does not want to hold hands with his girlfriend of 8 years and why Pam giggles when nothing is funny. When it comes to mental and nervous systems, I am no pro; however, I tend to have an open mind and a clear eye when I see these things.

Now it takes one to know one; I know trauma because I've had trauma, in all allies. And besides the ones I've listed above, there's also socially, economically, and hell, even emotionally in the intimacy department(close your ears and interpret that however you want to), I am an ally expert. I have been with all allies. I am a ally pro.

Anyways, as I age, I have long decided that nothing will permanently get me down, and I say "permanently" because I do need to scream, holler, and panic before and maybe even dissociate a few times from reality.

However, I have concluded that if I have to write a million poems, as cryptic and abstract as they may seem, and post one dozen blog posts to my 50 percent (I know who you are, followers) and 50 percent ghost followers to breathe easy, I'm gonna do it. Now in the place where I am from, or more so the place where I have been having the most questionable experiences for the last 9 years of my life—church.

The answer to all problems is stated to be God.

Now I will never deny that the Lord is sovereign, and truly he can fix everything on this earth. When the doctors say we don't know what's up, there comes Jesus saying, "Yo, you good now."

When darkness starts to rise, when cancer has decided to show up with a new cell, and the bank account decides it can't hold any more money for you. Jesus comes in and says, "Tada."

So I know God is more than capable; what I am aiming to get at is that beyond being spiritual beings, we are also mind and body.

Ha ha, bet you thought I was going to put God at second base and count him out, did you?

No, I am simply stating how often times we crave for our spiritual man to be awakened, revived, and restored. We go through the motions of church, prayer, and fasting, and guess what??? We forget that God cares about the other aspects of our lives.

the fact that as a prayer warrior you can't kneel because your stomach is too big, you preach and lead but everyone hates you because your emotional intelligence is a mess, and you give marriage advice but you yourself, although you desire marriage, still hold trauma in your veins that you won't acknowledge, and it prevents you from having connections. So many times the people of God and people as a whole hold out on really assessing themselves, seeing their faults and coming to the conclusion that they need help.

See, there is no such thing as perfection—it's unattainable yet we still aim, especially in this world, but as gifted and blessed as we are, we find it so hard to truly care for ourselves, especially in matters that are at the forefront of our lives; we see the issues, and yet we walk on by. We know the grey areas in our lives, but we only take note of the black and whites.

In the scenarios with young women who desire to even get married or even young men—even people in relationships. It's so important that we know ourselves, at least to a point where we can highlight our shortcomings and work on them so as to not imprint them on someone else, so as to take care of yourself and present yourself whole for the best results.

Now I am not the Christian whose sole purpose in life is marriage—okay, I'm just using the most common desire that ruins so many people and so many relationships, being unhealed to the point it travels into a union with another.

Read my blog posts on love here:

How to Find the Love of Your Life

Love is in the Air-So Beware

And I am also not saying a woman or man can't have it all and they still meet Lucifer Jr.

Personally, I think it's rare someone who is tapped into God and secure in God will end up in such a commitment. Unless they aren't as woke as they thought they were, or they ignored the signs, or they didn't seek God beforehand. God gives discernment for a reason. Like, you must have seen he was raising his hands too fast when your phone rang unannounced.

And I am not even going to go further because people put the "sen" in sensitive. Anyways, working on yourself to even be whole by one's self is also crucial.

Imagine you, healthy, fit, with a great job, having healed your daddy problems, and you serve the Lord!!!! Girl, teaaaaa.

Imagine you with a 6-pack, not afraid to cry, no mommy issues, a vehicle, a bank account, 6 feet tall (sorry, short kings—this is not about you right now, but yes, you still win), and you a minister!!

Yeah, so it's more than just showing up for the right man or woman; it's showing up for yourself, representing God in the best way possible. And healing does not come overnight; no change, especially from a point of being bruised, will ever just immediately transform. No, it takes time; it takes understanding.

I am also not saying that we spend our entire lives aiming to JUST look good, or get the best. No we seek God first and his Kingdom and many things will be added unto us, I never understand how people overlook the aspect that God's people are supposed to be royalty, why wouldn't the royals have the best there is-(without being superfluous of course)

For myself, as I grow, I realize there are more things I want to work on as I grow older; some things may need therapy, and all aspects will need God, but also I realize a method I use to get over things is sharing, opening the avenue for relatability so others can hear, learn and take heed, so I can express verbally as I come to terms with my journey.

So I have been keeping a secret...

I have a PODCASTTTTT.

And it's titled "A Whole Woman." The aim is to create a community geared towards women's issues, both mentally, spiritually, and emotionally, so women can be better, so women—myself included—can be the epitome of healed and whole . Now initially this was done as a legitimate secret. I posted; I created at least 7 episodes without prompting, with one almost at 900 plays. Remember, my YouTube is small, and there was no promo. It's on Spotify as well as YouTube.

My motto/tagline is "Addressing the matters of the mind, body, and soul, we can bloom and learn to become whole." There is one last episode left for the finale, but I also decided, after being content with my creative take on its presentation, that I want to share it.

So listen on YouTube.

Episode 6-We all Want Love...or Attention

Or you can play on Spotify

Spotify-Episode 3-Living a Purpose Filled Life

Now you may feel I just used you to read that, to promote this—and that's a lie! Because FYI the podcast season is almost concluded.

But yes, besides this being my reintroduction from my unannounced hiatus that I randomly take in the midst of chaos and trying to stay consistent. If you are looking for a community, follow me on YouTube and Spotify as we heal and bloom.

Youtube Channel Link

Spotify Link

P.S I have a draft, so see you next month.

Also, I chat a lot on my podcasts, so do some chores and put me on as we talk all things life and all things woman.

Scripture References

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 ESV

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17 vs 22 NIV

So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.-1 Corinthians 10:31 NLT